As a coach, I know what it means to be stuck in a rut. It happens to the best of us. …


Gymnastics is a tough sport. Gymnasts practice and practice, getting correction after correction to try and make a skill right. Technically, they will always receive a correction until they get the skill perfectly.

Then they compete. Their score starts from a “perfect 10” and they wobble and bobble it down…


In his comprehensive book on self-esteem, The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, Nathaniel Branden states that self-esteem is a basic human need. They way he describes it is that “Self-esteem is a need analogous to to calcium, rather than to food or water. …


At least once a week, I have to ask one of my gymnasts, “Where are we right now? What are we doing?”

The answer is, “At practice.”

I say, “Right. At practice. Are we at “perfect”?

It is important to remind our gymnasts that it is okay to make mistakes…


According to Nathaniel Branden in his book The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, high self-esteem is:

“Confidence in our ability to think, confidence in our ability to cope with the basic challenges of life; and

“Confidence in our right to be successful and happy, the feeling of being worthy, deserving, entitled…


In order to be successful, a gymnast must believe that she can be successful, and that she deserves to be successful.

Sometimes this is a very difficult trait to build in our gymnasts. This may be because outside influences tell her that she is not worthy, she did not work…


Have you every had a gymnast who had all the potential in the world to do a particular skill, but when it comes time to do it in the gym, she just doesn’t get it?

Sometimes the reason is the fear of success.

What does this mean in a gymnast…


One of the basic tenets of a healthy self-esteem is “what I think of myself has nothing to do with anyone else.” This is true in the gym as well. …


In my gym, we follow an “Individual First” philosophy. As their coach, I do what I believe is best for each individual gymnast. I find that if I help her become the best that she can be, on her own path, then the team will naturally follow. …


Integrity… Does what your gym’s governing body follow its own rules? …

Mary Reiss Farias

A writer and gymnastics coach dedicated to creating a new gymnastics culture one gymnast at a time.

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